I Like This, You Like That

Please select the best option in each question (Note: options are simply ranked alphabetically as to not express favor).

1. (a) chocolate

(b) strawberry

(c) vanilla

2. (a) blue

(b) red

(c) yellow

3. (a) beach

(b) mountains

(c) park

Evaluation~~

You chose more A’s. You are biased.

You chose more B’s. You are biased.

You chose more C’s. You are biased.

No matter what you pick, you express favor over one thing more than others; you are biased. How? Look at the definition:

(screenshot on iPad)

Now I ask you, why did you pick a certain option? Is chocolate better than strawberry because it melts in your mouth and has chemicals that make your brain release serotonin and thus makes you more happy when eating it? Is red better than yellow because it reminds you of Valentine’s Day and love and also motivates you to eat less even though you just had a double lunch and still feel hungry? Is the park better than the beach because it doesn’t have any sharks and there is no sand to get you feet dirty when you’re already wearing sandals and just casually walking and there are less half-naked people?

Our stereotypical perspective affects more than we think.

Or is the real answer because it just is? How long did it take you to finish the quiz? A minute? Did you actually think about all the characteristics of an option before you chose it? Most would answer “no,” because isn’t it how our lives work? Didn’t you already have a general idea of which option you like and just picked it from past experiences? Most likely, yes.

Everyone has preferences. Things you like, don’t like, and don’t care about. We just naturally have this. Sometimes, we don’t like something for a number of reasons, but in the end, it’s because you just

don’t,

can’t,

won’t.

Many people fight for no discrimination, no divisions, no bias, but if being bias is a natural response, why do we care? I agree that some matters are not reasonable and still happen, but I must argue that a majority of matters are unreasonable. The important factor is whether it affects other people, how our actions affect other people. This factor is important in everything. For instance, the freedom of speech is permitted as long as you don’t harm another person. Take, for example in class. There are teacher pets and I-am-the-bane-of-your-class-this-period kids. A teacher would prefer the pets over the banes, no insulting intended. In fact, teacher may prefer the pets over all other children, including the neutral kids. What did the neutral kids ever do wrong? Did the neutrals verbally challenge the teachers or not follow instructions like the banes (by the way, here’s a list of things never to say to a teacher)? Did the neutrals ace every assignment or ask about a teacher’s day like the pets? No; it just is. This is regular, as long as no one, during class, is treated better or unfairly. {Side note: no offense to any of my teachers this year, because they’re all great.} The teacher shouldn’t give a bad grade on a student’s assignment just because it is from a rude student. Likewise, the teacher shouldn’t give A’s to a student just because they are teacher pets (woof, meow, quack). Because in the grading papers world, papers are graded based on the efforts and capabilities of a person, not the personality and character of the person.

Maybe she’s got talent and skills.

The next example is more relatable. Say you meet someone and you exchange light conversation. However, when they left, you just feel you dislike them; you automatically place them in the list of people you don’t want to associate with if you can help it. Why is this so? Maybe it’s because you weren’t made to be their friend. Maybe it’s because you don’t like their appearance. Maybe it’s because they have no humor. Maybe it’s because they are of a different social group. Maybe it’s because they are better or worse at something than you. Or maybe, maybe because it just is. On the bright side, you still treated them as an equal and didn’t let your impressions result in a descending conversation.

Should be all be treated the same if we are all different?

Bias and preferences are a part of our society. They shape how we shop, eat, choose our friends. Everything we do is based off of our personal bias. We may attempt to like and treat everyone fair, but deep inside, we may think negatively. So what, you may ask, is the solution? How did you prevent bias from taking over how you act? Personally, I think it is difficult, near impossible, if we were to fight our instincts and attempt to befriend, forgive, and share our lives with everyone we meet. Not only would we have had world peace a long time ago, we would gone insane from the pressure of resisting ourselves what we want. What we must do is attempt to understand how our bias are conducted and how others are affected. I’m not saying to build your life around other people. I mean that you, as an individual, must recognize how you approach a situation, whether it is by instinct or not, and if that action is appropriate for the situation. You must recognize that you are have bias. You must recognize how you think. You have fault, because ultimately, you decide how to act.

I know you can’t help how you think. You can’t change everything in life. You can barely change how others think sometimes. But the best thing you can do is think for yourself. Wordy yeah, but my English teacher once said, “You can’t change the situation, but you can change your attitude.” You may not be able to change your thoughts, but you can try to change how you act. No one can read minds (creepy and scary), but everyone can see how you conduct life. Actions always did speak better than words.
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Out of fuel for now,

Thing two//Jennifer U.

“I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything I will not refuse to the something I can do.” ~Edward Everett Hale

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One thought on “I Like This, You Like That

  1. littlehannahh says:

    This post is very interesting and different! I do agree with you on how students should be graded on effort, rather than favoritism; and how you can’t help about how you feel about someone/something! Even though you may feel off about someone, you never have to show it. Actions DO speak louder than words and I really like the message that you’re presenting.

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